A Girl With The Broken Heart

            She was just like everybody else, with great ambitions and dreams but fate had other plans for her. She is now broken into pieces, not because she had a nasty relationship but because she has been hurt, by people she thought are her friends, her well-wishers. We have all been through ups and downs in our life but there is always this threshold for tolerance. Every human can only take so much in their life before it breaks them.

          

      

       This girl with a broken heart was just like everyone else out there, broken by expectations, trust, honesty and what not. She used to be fun, out-going and the way she spoke made her one of a kind. But now she is locked inside her room, spending hours thinking what went wrong in her life. Over-thinking can kill people, it can ruin their peace-of-mind. So, what happened to this happy-to-go-around girl? (when I say girl, I speak for almost every girl out there)

      This girl, am referring to, was disappointed by the people she thought who would never hurt her. She was disappointed because she expected too much. Her only mistake was expecting people to do the same for her. It’s the silliest of mistakes we humans do. When we put ourselves out there, some understand us, others just take us for granted.

      When we befriend someone, millions of things run in our head like, what they think about us? Are we doing fine or just embarrassing ourselves?. Once we move on from that awkward phase and the closer we get to that person, we start to expect and we do things to make them happy. There is this saying that goes and I quote, " When we love someone, we shouldn't expect things from them just because we would be willing to do that much for them". It’s true. Love towards someone should be a selfless act. But how long we can expect someone to be selfless?? I mean let’s face it, we are humans and we do have feelings. This girl was no exception to this. She used to be the girl who would make sure that everyone is happy around her and she would go to great lengths to make that happen. But what about that girl? Did anybody care whether she was happy? The answer was an NO.

      Many of us are like this girl, broken because we didn't matter to people as much as they mattered to us. This trend should be changed. We should realize that we should treat people based on how they treat us. It’s about time we got back what we once gave to others. We don't have to waste away the time, thinking what we’d done wrong. We don't have to sacrifice our sleep, thinking things over and over again. We don't have to wet our pillows in the middle of the night just because we made some wrong choices. We are humans and we make mistakes. The best thing about this is that we learn from those mistakes. This blog may sound confusing, some may like it others may ignore it but mostly many of us can relate to it. Stop getting our hearts broken and start making a life of your own. It's about time we started living our life for ourselves rather than to please other people.

      

A guy and a girl...friends or more???

      We might have heard this million times "whether a girl and a guy be friends forever??".Seriously, is it that hard for a guy and a girl to be friends?? where is this line tat separates friendship from a relationship?? Having a guy as your friend is a blessing in disguise. They can be a friend, a brother, a father and sometimes a mother too. We tend to get attached to them like they are ours to keep. Be it a boyfriend or a guy best friend, we want them to treat us special. We "GIRLS" like to show them off to the world like it's some sort of pride to have a guy on your side.

        People who are married to their best friends are the luckiest of the whole bunch. But when do we realize we are actually falling for that person? What actually leads to situations like this? Do guys sometimes get a wrong message from our act of goodwill? Few things guys should understand about girls.

• If a girl is talking crazy and being herself means she trusts you. 
• If she tells you everything, she is hoping you will listen to it and don't judge her.
• If she says she loves you, you have joined this elite group of people she cares for in her life.
• If she is staying up late and talking things that don't even make sense, then she needs you in her life.

        But if it's the way we treat our bestie then what about our boyfriend. What really makes the bestie different from the boyfriend?. 

         We get possessive, be it our guy bestie or boyfriend.We like their little hugs, little talks, and even their silence.Be it a boyfriend or a guy bestie, it all depends on how we see them. The invisible line is nothing but our mind that sees what we want to see and feels what we want to feel. So, all I want to say is that never confuse your feelings and don't over think stuff. Take one thing at a time and go with the flow, by the quote "IF YOU ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER, THEN YOU WILL BE".

(totally not related to this post :P P.S- Sura if you ever act all weird again, trust me you will be dead meat.)

"Relationships", are they really that complicated?

Hey guys, its been so long since I posted a blog...life kinda went busy. but am back and this blog is gonna be my comeback.Have you guys seen those statuses on FB saying and I quote " IN A COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIP"? I mean what is a complicated relationship anyway? How could two people make a relationship complicated?. As my bestie use to say,"Relationships are not complicated,people are".

              It's true I guess. What is there to complicate in a relationship anyway?. I think complications arise when we get too close. But then again, it's okay to be close with the person you love right!! I mean then what's the point of being in a relationship? I don't have any experience in this kind of things but I am gonna share a thing or two about it. First of all, I think the main reason for any sort of fights in a relationship is POSSESSIVENESS. The girls have it tooooo much and the guys never show it. It's okay to be possessive as long as it's healthy, in the sense both people understand the whole concept of it. If the girl is possessive on you, it's mainly because she is afraid of losing you. So guys, try to understand that. But there are girls who take it to the whole new level like expecting the guy to not to talk to any other girl except them, checking their phones, stalking them on facebook,etc. Girls give the guy some space, he loves you not someone else!!. So all I am saying now is try to give each other some space. let's call it a "SEPARATE TOGETHERNESS" (source: CARRIE BRADSHAW). 

                   Then comes these silly little fights which lead to the big ones. Guys a note to all of you, a girl remembers all the fights and the things you said during those fights. So think, I don't know a million times before you talk during a fight. Some fights are worth solving but some fights are not. Know this difference and the relevance of the problem before jumping to stupid conclusions.  This goes to the guys, a girl will cling to those fights until you put them to the grave, so even if the fault is hers, leave it. Because of your relationship worth more than those fights. 

           It became a trend among people nowadays, that it is essential to be in a relationship. This kind of relationship lasts no longer than a month or so. The relationship isn't something that you wear it to take it off when you don't like it. So think of a dozen times before you fall for someone and make sure it's because you love that person, not to earn some sort of status among your friends. 

                  One more thing to everyone, BREAK-UP is never an option. People break-up for so many reasons but am sure that it really doesn't have to end in a break-up. Learn to work on your differences. If you feel like you have lost that spark in your relationship,reignite it rather than putting it out. As I told you guys, am not an expert in these sort of things so I am just putting my views here. Anybody with any ideas and suggestions, even criticism about this post is wholeheartedly welcomed!!! :P :D

 P.S.- Guys try to be this kind of person, Girls will kill to fall in love with you. :P (notice the post below)

This is it, guys, it's all I know about relationships and the dramas. As I told before, people make it complicated so try to keep it simple and subtle. You really don't have to go the great lengths to impress someone. BE YOURSELF!!! If people don't like who you are then they are not worth falling for. My last message, more like a fact to all of you. Want to be happy, do these things, your life will change for better!!! :D

                                                                                          

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MOVEMBER- The Month Where The "BARBERS" Go Out Of Business!!!!

 Hey guys!!!! first of all thank you everyone for making me an "AMATEUR BLOGGER" :P.

One of my friend pointed out that my first post was "kinda boring", so i am gonna spice things up in this post. I am gonna dedicate this one to the guys. Every one must be aware of this "MOVEMBER-NO SHAVE NOVEMBER", a campaign against prostate cancer. This thing  keeps filling my news feed in FB and there it hit me,"why not talk about the guys?" . I mean we concentrate so much on the "FAIRER SEX" , these poor guys don't know what to do and decided to get the attention by "NOT SHAVING" for an entire month...:P, god please save us!!...Just kidding :P. Its kinda cool to see such initiatives. 

we pledge to this :)

So what is this MOVEMBER really  all about? its an annual CHARITY EVENT where men all over the world grow moustache to create awareness about prostate cancer, depression and other health issues . This  reminds me of the girls who shaved their head to show their support for women's health issues. The Movember Foundation Charity runs this movember awarness programme and they raise money and funds for all these stuffs. It was originated in Australia and New Zealand. Then it was launched in several other countries. Enough with the boring stuffs. 
There are some cool stuffs in it though!! Let me list them up:

1. And the MOSCORS goes too.....!!! - Can you guys believe it? they have "MOSCORS" :P. Its an online video contest where people all over the world post their "HAIRY TALENT" and get awarded in different categories...pretty cool right!! :P :D. I think even "Leonardo Dicaprio" can take a whack at this...who knows he might win it (atleast, just kidding!!)..:P
2. The International Man Of The Movember - The International Man of Movember is chosen from 21 national winners all over the world to wear the crown and be the face of Movember for a whole year, take that MS.UNIVERSE!!! :P
3. The funniest thing is the MOVEMBER FEVER  is attacking the "VIDEO GAMES" too...i repeat VIDEO GAMES!!! :O. Yes!!! players in "FOOTBALL MANAGER 2015" grows moustache in the month of november :P, "FIFA 14 Ultimate" features a "MOVEMBER CUP" , even  "GOOGLE CHROME" released some movember themed games.

ya ya...MOVEMBER  is C.R.A.Z.I.E.E.E.E.!!! but its for a good cause and people are really getting hooked up with this. So through my post i would like to dedicate this to all the guys saying " HAPPIEEEE MOVEMBER" . At the end of the day, its something more than just growing a moustache. A matter as delicate as this has to be acknowledged. So KUDOS to the organizers and keep doing what you guys are doing....:D 

P.S.- The guys in the video won the "MOSCARS" :p so take a look at how they did that :p 

Leap Of Faith- Secret to every relationship

Hey guys, am kinda new to all this so let me get these things right day by day.For that am gonna need all your help.Hope it goes as planned.here i am gonna start with a positive note.So am going to write today about "FAITH".Every relationship needs that hint of faith to keep it going...even i started this whole thing with a little faith that people might actually read it (hehe...:D).What keeps a relationship going?? is it faith? love? hope? a bit of everything i guess. faith is knowing that the person who cares for us will still come back even though we are scared they might be gone (copy righted to sree priyanka, my editor :P)...faith is when our dad lets go of our bicycle during our first ride, knowing we'll make it.
But let me ask you guys... Is faith really important in a relationship?? I mean who needs faith when people understand each other,right? But is understanding alone is enough to keep a relationship going? Faith is the bond that holds two people in a relationship, knowing they will be there for each other through thick and thin, better or for worse. This five letter word that guides everyone to their destination to serve their purpose in their life. Faith is also being strong when you feel like everything is gone but still hoping that one day your life will change for better. When people break up, its not the end of their life. Its a choice for them to move on, even though it breaks the bond. Keep faith as you will find the right one.

     

Faith is the assurance of our belief.Faith is holding on to the tiniest things in our life when our whole world is falling apart.why, even falling down in love takes a lot of faith hoping that the person will catch us. Its a "big" leap that not everyone is willing to take. When everything around us is filled with darkness, faith is the ray of light that guides us through the dark. But how faithful are today's generation..in a relationship? to their parents? to themselves? How many of us would have lied to our parents about their whereabouts? How many of us would have convinced ourselves that whatever we are doing is right though its not? How many of us still flirt with others even though we are in a relationship? well, there's also mistakes as well as back-stabbing. there lies all the difference. its like wearing this mask of faith but underneath we all are lying, faking and crushing the very foundation of every relationship. Why has being faithful become so over-rated? so am gonna ask you guys this.. are we faithful? to us? to our parents? to our friends? to the person we love?to the society? now lets put on our thinking caps, shall we? ;)
KEEP FAITH....:p CIAO...:D